It’s a great feeling the day you realize how normal it is to go to the movies by yourself.
I mean, okay, if you’re going to see Frozen by yourself, and you’re a 30-year-old dude, it might be a little weird. But maybe you just like musicals?
The point is, going to things alone can be a revelatory experience. And not just movies: As a music journalist, I got used to going to concerts alone a long time ago. And you know what? It’s fantastic.
Certainly concerts are, in some social circles, about being seen. But think of the last memorable conversation you had at a concert, and you’ll probably draw a blank. Cliché as it sounds, they’re about the music, man. So if you’re ready to take the plunge, grow up and start going to gigs alone, here’s our advice on how to do it. Mostly, just relax.
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hang by the bar
No, seriously. Maybe you'll see someone you know there and maybe you won't. Maybe you'll end up catching up with them, or maybe you'll just deliver a nod from afar. Either way, it shouldn't affect you enjoying the show. Hang by the bar, put out the vibe, feel it out and go from there.
take your time
Don't want to see the opener? Don't. Want to see the opener? Do. The problem with going to concerts with other people is that other people are the worst. Maybe they feel weird about going to a bar at 9, but you shouldn't. And maybe they feel weird about leaving before the encore, but you shouldn't. And when you're doing it yourself you don't have to. It's your world, buds — live in it.
When you aren't worrying about other people, whether they're having fun, or whether they're singing along, it's much easier to lose yourself in the music. But on a more literal level, it's also easier to lose yourself in the crowd, a great skill to have as a concert goer.
Sometimes, it's great to smoke a little reefer and just vibe out to the music, but if you're prone to paranoia, maybe don't do that. On the flip side, having a few drinks can make standing around a little less awkward, but at the same time, nobody wants to be that drunk guy alone by the soundboard. Do what you need to do to loosen up without the influence of others.
Seriously. Just go for it.